Jesus Christ came to this Earth knowing that people expected the Messiah to be a kingly, overbearing, take-over-the-world type of guy. They wanted someone who would overthrow Rome and be their all-powerful leader, not someone who would take the job of the lowliest soldier and wash his disciples feet. Christ was a leader, but only of those who chose to follow. He broke the rules and went against the grain. He led by serving.
Jesus served selflessly. He considered others more valuable than Himself. He served endlessly. He was never too tired, too busy, or too stressed to help someone. Our God served regularly. It wasn't something He did whenever He remembered, it was a continual habit. The savior served voluntarily. Not because He was forced to, but because He wanted to. Christ served emphatically. He gave it all He had and focused on it.
If you want people to think highly of you, think of them as better than yourself. If want respect, give respect. I you want others to work hard for you, be willing to make sacrifices for them. If you want people's time and energy, never be to busy to listen and to help. If you want to be a leader, you have to serve.