Saturday, December 10, 2011

Fat, Stupid, and Ugly

"I'm so fat."  "My life sucks."  "Why am I so stupid?"  "I'm gaining weight."  "I'm such a failure."  "Do you think my hips are big?"  "I look like crap today."  "Nobody loves me."
   These are the words I hear every day, and I am sick and tired of them.  All the time I listen to people degrade themselves, saying and believing that they are worthless.  I'm fed up with people putting themselves down, and I'm about ready to slap the next girl I hear call herself fat. 
   One minute someone is yelling at someone else who insulted them, the next I hear them saying worse things about themselves.  We are so scared someone else might think we're fat, stupid, or ugly, but what do we really think about ourselves?  God help the next person who says something bad about us, but then we spend the rest of the day bashing ourselves?  Who's opinion really matters?  Theirs, or our own? 
   It's ours - and God's.  What we think means more than what they do.  Our feelings and beliefs about ourselves are the foundation for what we do, everything we accomplish - or don't.  How we do anything meaningful while thinking we are fat, stupid and ugly?  How can we fulfill the Father's plans for our lives while believing we are inadequate and unlovable? 
   We may believe that we are fat, stupid, and ugly, but is that the truth?  We may be convinced that we are an idiotic failure, an unattractive accident, but is that factual?  Have we been deceived?  Are we lying to ourselves?  What really is the truth?
   The truth is that you are a beautiful, loved, creation.  You are splendid and unique.  The truth is that you have been bought with price, and you are worth far more than rubies.  God delights in you.  He has a plan for your life, you have a purpose.  Nothing you do can diminish your value.  No matter how bad you mess up, you will still be gorgeous.  The truth is that God made you special, and He loves you very much.
   Stop feeding yourself deception.  Stop destroying your self-image.  Stop beating yourself up.  Stop believing the falsehoods you fabricate about yourself.  Stop living a lie.
   Learn the truth.  Know the truth.  Share the truth.  Believe the truth.  Live the truth.

4 heartfelt responses:

Anonymous said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates2102267584744475677>

I agree with everything that you wrote, but as someone who struggles with borderline BDD and severe self-esteem issues, it's difficult to see yourself that way. I'm a Christian. In fact, I'm a youth pastor. But every day, I have to look in the mirror and ask God to help me to see myself how He sees me because, on my own, I can't. Some days, even when I don't see myself through His eyes, I have to tell myself that I am beautiful because He is beautiful. It's hard. A lot of people don't want to feel that way about themselves.

Michaela said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates2102267584744475677>

Well said, Michaela! Anonymous, thank-you for being honest. Keep holding onto the truth that will set you free. Speak it out loud. Believe it! He is amazing and He loves us!

Mom said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates2102267584744475677>

That last comment by Michaela was actually mine. I was logged in on her account:)

Michaela said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates2102267584744475677>

Anonymous, thank you for your honesty. It is hard, but you can do it! You are sooo beautiful and loved! I'm praying for you. ♥ ~Michaela